I've heard of this syndrome. I've seen it in quite a few of my baby-lusting friends (one of whom is now on the expectant list). I've sympathized with it, but never empathized. And now, it's happening to me.
I am freaking surrounded by pregnant women, and yeah, I'm jealous.
For a bit of a rundown...I have two close local friends due within a couple of months of each other (July and September). I have a generous handful of online friends who either have new(ish) little ones or are expecting in the near future. My aunt is going to have twins any day. Two high school friends are due for their first babies over the summer. A far away couple of friends are waiting for their adoption referral, as are my coworker and his wife. The list goes on and on and on and on. Babies are the craze this season, and I, as usual, am out of style.
What's weird is that I'm jealous even though I don't actually want a baby myself. I know, when I think about it, that even if kids are the right thing for Mark and I, now is not the right time. No, kids at this point wouldn't be a bona fide disaster, but it's not the ideal time yet. Kids would require sacrifices and life changes that neither one of us is willing to make. I know that. And yet...everybody else is doing it, so why can't I?
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You aren't out of style--you just have an odd group of friends. While 2 of my friends had babies a while ago, most people I know don't have babies/aren't coupled. I vaguely know some people at work with kids. So you don't have to feel like an oddball!
Posted by jenny | March 29, 2007 7:14 PM
I don't think we're all that odd, actually.
In my social circle, a few years back, SEVEN babies were born in a year and a half. I made so many baby quilts my hands almost fell off. Then, no babies for a while. Now I'm pregnant, but I only know one other woman who is and she's a distant acquaintance. And I'm almost the last among my friends who want kids to actually have one.
If it helps, Grace, when you come over this weekend I won't mention it at all! And I don't look it, so we can just pretend I'm sick and that's why I can't do much around the house. :)
Posted by Skye
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March 30, 2007 8:05 AM
No! I'm thrilled for you and C! It's more just that I feel like I'm not maturing w/ my peer group or something.
Oddly, the people I went to college with are not marrying or procreating. It's all my pre-college and post-college friends.
Posted by grace | March 30, 2007 9:53 AM
Right there with you. When I start envying my alcoholic brother's girlfriend her accidental pregnancy, I know I need to pull myself together. It doesn't help that I do want kids, but this just isn't the time.
Posted by thistle | March 30, 2007 11:19 AM
I understand where you're coming from. But for me, it's more a case of "Everyone has a partner but me." I really want a baby too, but that's simply not going to be possible for a LONG time because I have no partner and no financial security.
Posted by sofiya | April 1, 2007 2:30 PM
I kind of know what you mean. Many people around me are having babies too and while I know I want one badly, every month that I don't get pregnant I'm like... ok ... that's cool. I can hang on to my freedom just a bit longer. So it's like I do and don't want one at the same time. Weird.
P.S. Look forward to meeting you in July!
Posted by Carrisa | April 2, 2007 1:21 PM